Do you manage to allow your positive side to be in control more than your negative one? How difficult do you find it to be positive when things in your life seem to be going in the opposite direction to where you want them to go?I found this site today with a few quotes to help the positive stuff.http://simplyenjoylife.com/ How do you manage to change negative things into a positive thought process?

I will be honest i sometimes struggle with all these questions but am interested in your answers.

Hi Anc and everyone

I'm afraid I'm very much driven by negatives.  It can be very difficult to get in touch with the positives, especially when your head doesn't want you to.  There are a few things I can think of to change negatives into positives:
- look at the actual facts.  It may be that you are exaggerating the negative and it's not as bad as you think.
- look at what you can learn from the negative situation.  How could you handle the situation better next time?  How can you change the situation to your advantage?
- remind yourself of all the good things in life.  Write a list of good things you have had today, e.g. nice food, Sunshine, time with a friend.  Write down things that you have achieved.  Write down the things you want to achieve in your life.

I am currently dealing with a situation where my negativity has gone wild.  I go to group therapy and I find it difficult to join in because of my anxiety.  Tomorrow we have two new people joining the group and I have been feeling very negative about that.  I am anxious about introductions, feeling that having more people there will make it even harder and probably pointless, and very angry towards my therapist for creating the situation in the first place.  Today I am thinking I need to look for some positives in this situation.  The introductions won't be so bad as I fear, I have the opportunity to try speaking with a larger group of people that I'm not so comfortable with, and if I do manage more than utter my name then I will be able to feel proud of myself.  "Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway (Susan Jeffers)" springs to mind.

Thought some of the quotes were good.  I have a good collection of quotes from various books and websites but I'm not so good at going back and reading them again. ;-)

Rosie

Rosie

Hi,

Much like the points Rosie made I think the most important thing for me is to take the proverbial deep breath and look at things in an objective way rather than passing things through the filter of my emotions.

I am very much someone who will blow up at things (usually just in my mind not in public!) but then after that I'll just have a think and see how the land REALLY lies, and what is REALLY happening rather than how the land lies FOR ME.

That way I can look at things and ask myself what can I do to improve the situation - can I do something, do I need to cintact someone, gain some fresh information, or is it out of my hands. When I've taken that time the answers seem more clear.